Will you soothe my mood? SJT Video
Ever give yourself permission to vent with your spouse? Well, I certainly do and have! In my latest “Sloppy Joe Time” video, I share what I’m trying to get my spouse to do when I vent (yes, that means...
View ArticleBattling to Spiritually Lead? Sloppy Joe Time Video
Sometimes the “best laid plans” of wives and husband’s go awry! Especially when wives, like me, try to encourage their husbands to lead spiritually. In this video, I share about how I struggle with...
View ArticlePeacemaker or Peacekeeper? And WW Linkup
Since my post last week encouraged the extending of grace to our mates, I felt it was important to explain the difference between giving grace (peacemaking) and enabling unhealthy behavior...
View ArticleWhen Your Spouse Stonewalls You And WW Linkup
Creating a confessional culture is not for the faint of heart, especially if you are trying to do so in a deeply wounded and dysfunctional marriage. As a marriage life-coach and counselor, I’d say that...
View ArticleCan I read your mind? SJT Video
Today I’m sharing a “Sloppy Joe Time” video that hits close to home because I put this sloppy expectation into action just a week or so ago. Honestly, I don’t think there will be a day when I won’t...
View ArticleTrusting God with My Marriage And WW Linkup
Guest post by blogger – Robi Smith of Hopefulwifetoday.com It was three and a half years ago that I discovered my husband was addicted to pornography. I had been looking through his phone when I...
View ArticleWaiting on Your Mate to Change? And WW Linkup
Are you feeling like you’re tired of beating your head against a wall because your mate never changes? Does your spouse continue to deny the glaring issues that you see in his or her character and...
View Article“9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage” Giveaway and Linkup
I was excited to receive and read Sheila Gregoire’s latest marriage book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage. If you don’t know Sheila, then you need to get to know her! She blogs at To Love,...
View ArticleCan I point out your flaws? SJT Video
Today I’m back with another “Sloppy Joe Time” that addresses our tendency as faulty and defensive human beings to point the finger at our spouse’s flaws and “specks” rather than going on a “Plank Hunt”...
View Article12 Ways Being Vulnerable Can Ruin Your Marriage
If you have been around Messy Marriage for any length of time, you know that I am a BIG proponent of vulnerability. Don’t get me wrong … I’m not flip-flopping on the issue of being vulnerable with who...
View Article5 Steps for a Successful Heart-to-Heart with Your Wife And Linkup
Today, we’re going one step further in our discussion on “Men and Openness” by talking about … “talking about our feelings.” Based upon the Men and Openness survey I conducted recently, 53.45% of the...
View Article8 Things to Avoid When Your Husband Opens Up And Linkup
Today we’re continuing to focus on the answers that I gleaned from my “Men and Openness” survey, in an effort to address some of the hindrances that are present in attempts to communicate between a...
View Article5 Ways Your Spouse Can Control You
I’m beginning a new series on Sundays that will unpack five ways that we are prone to let our spouses control us. FYI … I’ll still be posting videos on upcoming Sundays, just not as often. If you’ve...
View Article7 Steps for Encouraging Openness
I’m excited about today’s post because I get to focus on the positive communication techniques that wives (or husbands) can do to improve times of sharing and disclosure with their spouses. I’d like to...
View Article3 Steps to Avoid a Parenting Power Struggle
It’s easy to think that when your spouse does something that bugs you and you react, that you are making a conscious choice born out of your freewill to resist. But more times than not, you are...
View ArticleHealthy Boundaries and Expectations for a Heart-to-Heart And Linkup!
Today I’m continuing in the series that was born out of the results from my Men and Openness survey by unpacking a bit more what a wife (or any spouse for that matter) needs to keep in mind in a...
View ArticleFeel like a Victim in Marriage?
I’m back from a much-needed vacation to continue the series on how our spouses can control us. Today’s focus is about feeling like a victim in a hopeless marriage. Sometimes people who are in a hurtful...
View Article‘Fix’-ated on Changing Your Mate?
Today we continue to unpack the many subtle ways our spouses can control us by talking today about the temptation to try to “fix” or change our spouse because he/she doesn’t do his/her part or do it...
View ArticleResisting God because You Feel Pressured?
This week I’m tackling another way we let our spouses control us … “Resisting spiritual pursuits because your spouse is cramming them down your throat.” The spouse who has been pressured by his/her...
View ArticleHow Enabling Your Mate Controls ‘You’
I want to discuss one more way that our mates can sometimes control us … through the ever-tempting avenue of enabling them. The reason I say this is “tempting” is probably because I feel this draw as a...
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